The importance of “the girls”
The importance of “the girls”
Whether you’re navigating challenges, celebrating milestones or in need of a great night out, having “the girls" by your side makes life richer and more meaningful. It’s these relationships that can offer you stability in uncertain times, and provide a source of support, growth and happiness.
For women going through divorce or separation, these friendships take on an even greater significance. During this time, “the girls” can provide you with the understanding, empathy and support you may need to make sense of your new situation and navigate the complexities that go with it. After all, divorce is a period of massive change and emotional upheaval, and there’s not rule book on this. Plus, their presence is a very welcome reminder that you’re not alone on this journey, even though it may feel like you are at times.
Women often excel at creating safe spaces for real, raw and honest communication. And this kind of emotional support is even more vital if you’re navigating divorce or separation. It’s with your girlfriends that you can authentically share your thoughts, feelings and fears without judgment. They’ll offer a listening ear, help you process emotions and provide you invaluable advice at a time when making a decision seems all too hard. They’ll also likely offer a new way of looking at things, which can be transformative if you’re struggling to see through the fog of divorce or separation. Keeping your girls close will also help you rebuild confidence and resilience, which can often take a hit as you step into life following a divorce or separation. They’ll remind you of your worth, cheer you on, and celebrate your wins… even the teeny tiny ones. They’ll also provide perspective and encouragement when self-doubt creeps in, helping you to reframe those often (and understandably) automatic negative thoughts that creep in during challenging times.
Your girls will also make you laugh… even when you’re sure there’s nothing to laugh about. Laughter is a powerful connector, and shared moments of happiness with your friends will help you create brand new memories. For women experiencing divorce or separation, moments of happiness and laughter is a timely reminder that life can still bring happy moments and new possibilities. And laughter is also known to reduce stress and improve mental health*. So even challenging times, why not lean on a girlfriend and organise a fun activity like a girls' night out or weekend away? You may just find this to be a crucial part of healing and embracing your own empowered new beginning.
Research has also shown that strong friendships can reduce stress, improve mental health and even boost physical well-being**. For women going through divorce, these benefits are particularly welcomed. Keeping your friends close can also lower feelings of isolation and loneliness, which are often two of the strongest feelings during this time.
Whether you’re facing challenges, celebrating milestones, or simply in need of a good laugh, the support of your girlfriends… particularly during a divorce or separation… cannot be overstated. These relationships offer a foundation of understanding, empathy and encouragement that can guide you through life’s difficult transitions and provide a reminder that you are not alone. So, lean on your friends in your time of need, create and cherish new memories, and know that, despite the challenges, you’re doing amazing things.
* Stress relief from laughter? It's no joke - Mayo Clinic
** Friendships: Enrich your life and improve your health - Mayo Clinic
